Offbeat Mama | gender

This is Offbeat Mama’s archive of gender posts.

Most Recent Posts About gender

We are a family of co-sleepers, but recently noticed that Jasper is…well, taking up way more than his share of the bed. Our bed is a king, so theoretically, there's loads of room for everyone, right? Wrong.

Jasper's new room!

Jasper has taken to sleeping horizontally when we're sleeping vertically, or to spending half the night with his fingers digging into our noses, eye balls, and ribs. This isn't every night, and the sweet moments (like when he turns to me in his sleep, feels my face, and says "Hiiiii!") definitely outweigh the finger digs, but still.

The age-old struggle: defining gender. Every family has a different way of approaching the topic, and Denise is in the process of figuring out what exactly "female" means for her three month old, Nikte.

Can we re-message and re-package what "princess" means and looks like in a way that makes princess life empowering and not merely about external appearance, wealth, and netting a hot young prince?

We want Avie to feel as unrestrained by gender as possible. We began by giving him a gender-neutral name and attempting to dress him in neutral colors and patterns. As he gets older, we validate and encourage his emotions, and intend to support him in whatever interests he develops. Our hope is that Avie remains as passionate and expressive as he is now.

We all know about my ongoing search for baby clothes for my son that aren't all about footballs or pastel duckies. Well, I've finally found my online Eden of funky baby clothes: Polkadot Patch Boutique.

Last month while on clothing expedition, he selected from a shelf a pair of bold, pink flower-covered cotton pants and asked me to buy them for him. I heard a disembodied voice that could only be mine reply stiffly, “Let’s take a look at these pants. Do these look like boy pants, or girl pants?”

I'm not offended when I'm asked these questions, at least not for me. But I feel a little irked for Andrew. What, because he is a man the best he can do is "babysit" his child?

When I got pregnant I knew that I wanted to give my child a gender-neutral environment to grow up in. I registered for jungle theme decorations and crib sheets. ...