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DILFs
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on March 11, 2010
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Tags: babies, grown ups, guitar, music
It's been a while since I featured an offbeat DILF. I got some feedback from one reader who said the feature was "so wrong and trashy" and I got a little gun-shy. BUT! I just can't stay away from the pictures of hottie dads, so despite some of you thinking this feature is "like Hooters for women," here's this week's DILF, James!
Helen Jane explains, "Back when I was 22 , I wrote a list of exactly what I wanted out of a husband. Someone who would play guitar to our kids was number one on the list." … Mission accomplished, HJ!
For a couple more shots of James, and a poll about whether I should keep featuring DILFs, keep reading!
And now I want to know what you think:
Syd said
That last photo made me well up a bit. I think it is a bit trashy, but when I'm feeling prudish I just pretend that the "F" in DILF means "Friend". Dad I'd like to Friend. Then it feels clean again.
Overall I think it's a great way to feature the male counterpart to our off-beat momhood, you know in a purely equal opportunity kind of way.
OffbeatAriel said
"Friend" I LOVE THAT!
Masha said
Who says offbeat mamas don't like a little DILF in their lives?
Buttercup said
I say keep the DILF's coming! It's nice to see the other sex represented on here as well.
Annelise said
You could always name it something different, if people are upset. I think it's great to see dad's featured- Mamas aren't the only ones raising those offbeat babies!
Sarah Prince said
I agree. Maybe it's just the whole "DILF" thing that makes some people uncomfortable? I absolutely love the posts, but if my guy isn't super hot and I still have freaking awesome pics of him and the kid/s, does that count? This is all my humble opinion, of course:) In any case, keep the dad pics coming!
Olivia said
EVERY good dad is super hot!
OffbeatAriel said
Olivia, you took the words right out of my mouth!
Marie said
I agree and I don't have kids; HURRAY to celebrating offbeat mamas and their partners. Guys get such a bad reputation; everyone needs to see pictures/here about great fathers!
Besides "DILF" is tongue-in-cheek anyway (and I AM a total prude)
CarioCgl said
I appreciate the eye-candy but the "DILF" bit bothers me…sends my mind to less than honorable places when the whole point of these profiles is to highlight the awesomeness of these guys. Maybe "Offbeat Dads", "Offbeat Partners", "Offbeat Helpers", or something equally offbeat would work as a substitute?
I'm also afraid "DILF" will eventually end up on the internet filter at work and I'll no longer be able to view this website during breaks! Gotta have my Offbeat Fix!
OffbeatAriel said
Just to clarify, we've already got an Offbeat Papas category: http://offbeatmama.com/filed/features/papas
The DILF posts are a subcategory of that more general papa category.
Jill said
I think it's so sweet! there's a misconception that we lose our sexuality (and sexual appeal) when we have kids — so why not feature hot parents of both sexes?
Jill said
p.s. yay for guys who play guitar…
my husband plays to our dog, so i'm betting our kids will get serenaded too.
offbeat_shrie said
We are an offbeat community. I don't find "DILF" in the least bit offensive. I think it's actually pretty snarky and funny! Long live the DILF feature!
Alissa said
I seriously doubt that the offbeat dads are offended – and that's the important thing right?
oonagh said
LOVE the DILFS! Keep em coming!
KathyRo said
I guess in the interest of gender equality you could throw in some MILFs… but aren't all OBMamas MILFs?? Really we need some DILFs to balance out all the hot MILFs that already appear here!
Ariel said
We feature MILFs every day on the site.
Sara said
Isn't doing things that sometimes rub people the wrong way all part of what it means to be Offbeat? KEEP THE DILFS COMIN'!
addie said
It's a little heteronormative, but I love seeing the pictures of loving, hot, offbeat papas. Maybe a re-name is in order, but however you call it, keep the feature!
Lorian said
Keep the DILFs! Like Shrie said: we're offbeat, the lingo is part of the culture as well. We all know nobody is actually planning on jumping the dads.
I love this section, partly because of the whole male/female balance people already mentioned. But also: what can possibly be hotter than a father proudly showing off his kids and being comfortable about being a father? There's nothing sexist about that, in my opinion.
I know my man would feel acknowledged and proud if he were to be featured on here.
Julie said
I second this. Too often I see media (and society in general), dissing fatherhood and regarding it as a loss of freedom or some kind of burden. It's good to see men enjoying fatherhood. The term "DILF" I just kinda regard as a silly term that makes me giggle a little. I have no intention of "jumping the dads" as Lorian so rightly put it.
Kate the Great said
I like DILF, both the feature and the name. It seems harmless, and in a cultural climate where dads are generally perceived as armchair schlubs or overgrown kids, I love seeing fathers interact with their little ones. The eye candy factor certainly doesn't hurt, either.
Jadku said
I love it! And when we begin to have kids(hopefully soon!) I hope to submit my own husband
mustbered said
I like the feature but not the name. Can we come up with something better than a reference to wanting to have sex with these guys? Maybe not all of us want to think of them sexually but do admire and appreciate their great "dadness." I agree with Cariogcl – what about "Offbeat Partners" or something like that.
Sara2 said
I am with mustbered… I LOVE having offbeatPapas featured, and I think it is completely necessary in our culture where Dads are often considered incapable at parenting. The DILF thing annoys me though. Doesn't offend me or tick me off or whatever, I just find it a) cheapens the awesome job these guys are doing and b) takes the focus off the awesome parenting and attempts to put it on nice butts instead lol.
ashby said
I think it's funny. That's the point, right?
Amber Linthakhan said
i totally 2nd or 3rd or whatever number we're at for the idea of coming up with a more creative "offbeat" term for these DILFs
i know there's some creative gals out there that can coin up a term
@greaser5564 said
it's wrong and trashy… but i also think it's really sweet!!! all these dads are hott BECAUSE they look like they're really good dads! Which is why I love DILF! plus, i want my hottie hubby on here once wee baby is born!!! ^-^ hehe
Jenny said
If you cant do it on offbeat mama where can you? I love it!
Carrie said
How do we submit Dad's for this? I have a hot one at home.
Katie said
I agree to opening a MILF category to balance the sexes for the non-hetero-normative audience. But don't stop! And don't change the name! I'm so sad that some people think that the "F" part is something dirty and trashy.
casey said
so adorable!! and yeah the guys featured in DILF are HOT!! keep it up..i love seeing guys be dads!! it makes them sooo much hotter than usual
NoraEE said
Please don't ditch the DILFs! Ain't nothin' wrong with enjoying a little bit of eye candy plus baby.