Comments on: Queer Parent 101 http://offbeatmama.com/2010/02/queer-parent-101 We will not be pacified Fri, 10 Sep 2010 12:05:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Ariel http://offbeatmama.com/2010/02/queer-parent-101/comment-page-2#comment-13108 Ariel Sun, 05 Sep 2010 17:00:25 +0000 http://offbeatmama.com/?p=916#comment-13108 In related news, COMING THIS WEEK: My screed on why I hate parenting acronyms. In related news, COMING THIS WEEK: My screed on why I hate parenting acronyms.

]]> By: Stephanie http://offbeatmama.com/2010/02/queer-parent-101/comment-page-2#comment-13100 Stephanie Sun, 05 Sep 2010 12:12:20 +0000 http://offbeatmama.com/?p=916#comment-13100 Hey, TTC=Trying To Conceive. :) Hey, TTC=Trying To Conceive. :)

]]> By: LittleBlackSpider http://offbeatmama.com/2010/02/queer-parent-101/comment-page-2#comment-13096 LittleBlackSpider Sun, 05 Sep 2010 10:12:05 +0000 http://offbeatmama.com/?p=916#comment-13096 Ariel, what is TTC? I have see it a few times throughout this thread and for the life of me can't guess this one! Ariel, what is TTC? I have see it a few times throughout this thread and for the life of me can't guess this one!

]]> By: LittleBlackSpider http://offbeatmama.com/2010/02/queer-parent-101/comment-page-1#comment-13095 LittleBlackSpider Sun, 05 Sep 2010 09:57:11 +0000 http://offbeatmama.com/?p=916#comment-13095 umm.... what is TTC? umm…. what is TTC?

]]> By: Lisa http://offbeatmama.com/2010/02/queer-parent-101/comment-page-3#comment-12636 Lisa Thu, 26 Aug 2010 20:36:33 +0000 http://offbeatmama.com/?p=916#comment-12636 thank you for this post! my partner and i are parenting my 4-yo son from a previous relationship. we went to his kinder open house last night and found ourselves being looked at A LOT by the other parents and kids. this is new territory for us and we're a bit curious as to how to negotiate through this new obstacle course of life complexities as gay parents of a little boy in a community that doesn't have a very large or obvious lgbt enclave. it's not about my or my partner's comfort - rather, it is about guiding our son through the next 14 years so that he grows into an honorable man who is proud of his family, contributes to his community and knows himself. thank you for this post! my partner and i are parenting my 4-yo son from a previous relationship. we went to his kinder open house last night and found ourselves being looked at A LOT by the other parents and kids. this is new territory for us and we're a bit curious as to how to negotiate through this new obstacle course of life complexities as gay parents of a little boy in a community that doesn't have a very large or obvious lgbt enclave. it's not about my or my partner's comfort – rather, it is about guiding our son through the next 14 years so that he grows into an honorable man who is proud of his family, contributes to his community and knows himself.

]]> By: Michelle http://offbeatmama.com/2010/02/queer-parent-101/comment-page-3#comment-12556 Michelle Wed, 25 Aug 2010 19:41:18 +0000 http://offbeatmama.com/?p=916#comment-12556 I love this. I also refer to my husband as my partner quite often and my niece, who has two rediculously loving / wonderful moms is one of the happiest kids I know. I am currently pregnant with a girl and have a friend who is having a boy. She suggested an "arranged marriage" for our little ones and I said "I'd really like her to choose her own partner and who's to say she's going to like boys anyway?" She looked at me like I'm crazy and I said to her, "well I don't know about you, but I'd just like her to be happy and healthy and someday find love with whomever she chooses." I love this. I also refer to my husband as my partner quite often and my niece, who has two rediculously loving / wonderful moms is one of the happiest kids I know. I am currently pregnant with a girl and have a friend who is having a boy. She suggested an "arranged marriage" for our little ones and I said "I'd really like her to choose her own partner and who's to say she's going to like boys anyway?" She looked at me like I'm crazy and I said to her, "well I don't know about you, but I'd just like her to be happy and healthy and someday find love with whomever she chooses."

]]> By: Christine http://offbeatmama.com/2010/02/queer-parent-101/comment-page-2#comment-12485 Christine Tue, 24 Aug 2010 19:38:53 +0000 http://offbeatmama.com/?p=916#comment-12485 This was so wonderful to read. I feel like you should go on tour. Thank you for sharing! This was so wonderful to read. I feel like you should go on tour. Thank you for sharing!

]]> By: Amy http://offbeatmama.com/2010/02/queer-parent-101/comment-page-1#comment-12465 Amy Tue, 24 Aug 2010 13:10:10 +0000 http://offbeatmama.com/?p=916#comment-12465 My husband's name is Alex, so I take a certain amount of snarky delight in calling him my "partner" (and sometimes my "baby's daddy") and letting folks assume what they will. My husband's name is Alex, so I take a certain amount of snarky delight in calling him my "partner" (and sometimes my "baby's daddy") and letting folks assume what they will.

]]> By: Anie http://offbeatmama.com/2010/02/queer-parent-101/comment-page-1#comment-8358 Anie Fri, 18 Jun 2010 05:19:10 +0000 http://offbeatmama.com/?p=916#comment-8358 Bach! We run into this problem in our poly household when my boyfriend will say "Hey baby, could you ..." and me and his wife both get up to do it - and then have to figure out who he was actually talking to. Bach! We run into this problem in our poly household when my boyfriend will say "Hey baby, could you …" and me and his wife both get up to do it – and then have to figure out who he was actually talking to.

]]> By: KelleMarie http://offbeatmama.com/2010/02/queer-parent-101/comment-page-2#comment-6809 KelleMarie Sat, 15 May 2010 23:37:54 +0000 http://offbeatmama.com/?p=916#comment-6809 I HAVE TWO-DADDIES!! I actually grew up with my mom after my parents split. My dad wasnt around when I was really little but started to be around more when I was in middle school. Thats when he got with his partner (who I just call by his first name - just like I call my moms long-term boyfriend by his first name). I think that even if I grew up living with my dads I would be just as fine as I am now. I was never ashamed or anything about my openly gay dad. I actually remember when my mom told me, she was crying and I was just like "yea so..." (I was in the 5th grade - I think she was just afraid to tell me, plus there was more to the story I wont go into). My husband says I have 1mom and 3dads (2&4 if you cant inlaws). I have 16month old twins... so they havent started saying "grandma/grandpa" yet really. But I have a 4yr old nephew that calls my dad "grandpa" (even though my sister isnt his kid, but her father is a loser). he also calls my moms bf "grandpa" and usually calls my dads partner "grandpa as well. Sometimes though he calls him "grandpa-ma" I said it as a joke one day just because he is even girlier than me, use to do drag, and use to say that he was the best step-mom ever... so I asked if he wanted my nephew to call him grandpa or grandma - but we have that relationship so I can say that.... no stranger should say anything like that.. or ask something about that. Some stuff people say makes me so upset. I even had someone tell me that they have nothing against gay couple etc. but they dont want them to be able to adopt children... OMG! SERIOUS?! I wont really get into that now, but I would rather have 2same sex parents that love me than none. I HAVE TWO-DADDIES!!
I actually grew up with my mom after my parents split. My dad wasnt around when I was really little but started to be around more when I was in middle school. Thats when he got with his partner (who I just call by his first name – just like I call my moms long-term boyfriend by his first name). I think that even if I grew up living with my dads I would be just as fine as I am now. I was never ashamed or anything about my openly gay dad. I actually remember when my mom told me, she was crying and I was just like "yea so…" (I was in the 5th grade – I think she was just afraid to tell me, plus there was more to the story I wont go into). My husband says I have 1mom and 3dads (2&4 if you cant inlaws). I have 16month old twins… so they havent started saying "grandma/grandpa" yet really. But I have a 4yr old nephew that calls my dad "grandpa" (even though my sister isnt his kid, but her father is a loser). he also calls my moms bf "grandpa" and usually calls my dads partner "grandpa as well. Sometimes though he calls him "grandpa-ma" I said it as a joke one day just because he is even girlier than me, use to do drag, and use to say that he was the best step-mom ever… so I asked if he wanted my nephew to call him grandpa or grandma – but we have that relationship so I can say that…. no stranger should say anything like that.. or ask something about that.

Some stuff people say makes me so upset. I even had someone tell me that they have nothing against gay couple etc. but they dont want them to be able to adopt children… OMG! SERIOUS?! I wont really get into that now, but I would rather have 2same sex parents that love me than none.

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